How to Meet Someone to Date at Church

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In theory, meeting someone at church or your local synagogue is a fantastic sounding idea. They’re going to probably have the same ideals as you, maybe the same mindset, and certainly the same goals when it comes to life, love, children, and happiness. But, for some reason, it never works out how we want it to. We know that there are lots of good looking single men and women at church, but we just can’t figure out how to meet them.

In this guide, that is what we’re going to tackle. We’re going to show you the simple ways that you can increase your chances of finding love at church or the synagogue. We’ll also explore a few different avenues if religious love is something that is important to you.

Join the Singles Ministry

Most churches are going to have some form of a singles ministry. The bigger the church, usually the bigger the singles ministry is and the more people you’ll have that you can meet. What is a church singles ministry? It’s usually a group that meets a few times or once a month to do something fun together. The group is going to be made up of all single men and women who are consciously looking for love.

It is NOT a speed dating service. It is NOT an awkward setting where they force you to interact with people that you may or may not be interested in. Every single church singles ministry that we’ve seen works to create a pressure-free environment where you can just hang out and have fun with other religious singles.

Now, before you roll your eyes and say that the singles ministry “isn’t for you,” let’s take a look at a few reasons why it’s a great move if you’re looking to meet someone to date at church. First, it’s usually not a group for just the “religious elite” or the people that have their lives perfect. Like most churches, it’s a welcoming place that pushes the come as you are agenda. It is not filled with people that only read the Bible and speak only in hymns. There are “normal” and down to Earth people in church singles ministries.

Second, just because there isn’t someone that isn’t God’s fit for you in the singles ministry, does not mean that it can’t help you find love. We can’t tell you how many stories we’ve heard of people who went to a single’s ministry meeting, didn’t meet anyone there, but got set up with someone through someone they met there. “Hey, I think I know a guy (or girl) that would be perfect for you!” There’s a good chance you’re going to hear those words at a singles ministry.

Take the leap this year and give it a shot. The absolute worst thing that happens if you have some fun with some other religious single people, and that’s it! And if for some reason your church’s singles ministry is terrible, you don’t have to go back! And if they don’t have one, why not start one? Talk about a great way to get a date from church.

Don’t Speed In and Out of Church Every Sunday

Relationships at church are formed in the moments in between services and not while the pastor is preaching. It’s pretty hard to get a date with someone in the middle of a church service or during the quick greeting period. We see a lot of people that go to church and end up meeting zero people (not even friends) because they come in right at the beginning of service time and as soon as it’s over, it’s a mad dash to the parking lot to get to their car.

Try this. Slow it down a little bit. Mingle with your church some. Grab a cup of coffee if they have that there. Shake a few hands and get to know your congregation. Even if you don’t find the love of your life doing this, you’re going to meet some awesome people, make new friends, and really enhance your church experience. And, you are certainly going to increase your chances of finding Mr. or Mrs. Right.

This is good advice at anything you do, not just church. Block out a little time to mingle before or after an event and get to know some new people. We’re sure you’ll be pretty impressed with the results.

Get Involved in Church Events

You cannot meet people and ultimately get dates if you are not putting yourself in situations and environments where you can meet people and ultimately get dates. Yes, we repeated ourselves there on purpose. Get involved at your church! Volunteer! Become a greeter! Join a bible study! Join the men’s or women’s ministry! (You’d be shocked how many people will try and set you up within the men’s and women’s ministry).

Get yourself out there and start getting to know your church. You’ll make some awesome new friends, have a lot of fun, and you will start meeting people to go on dates with. This is the single simplest thing you can do to increase your chances of getting a date from church.

Let It Be Known You’re Looking For Love

If you’re noticing a theme through this how to meet someone and get a date from church guide, it is this – people at church are going to WANT to help you find love. Whether it’s a new friend you make or the old lady that sits in front of you or even the pastor, people are going to want to help you find love.

To be honest, we don’t really know why this is, but it just seems that people at church have a knack for wanting to play matchmaker and for actually being pretty good at it. It might be because they know a relationship will make you happy or is an important part of your religious life and health. Whatever the reason, it’s awesome, and it’s something that you need to take advantage of.

But, no one is going to set you up with anyone if they don’t know that you are single. How do people know you’re single? You let them know! All these new friends and new people you’re meeting should be aware of the fact that you’re single. You don’t have to run around the church singing it to everyone, but you should let it be known that you are single.

We have an awesome guide about how to ask your friends to set you up on a date that is a must read if you need some help on how to go about doing this. Let people know you’re single and ready to mingle, and then let them do what they do. You’ll end up with way more dates from church than you know what to do with.

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Author: Matt Seymour, MSF

Matthew J. Seymour is a dating industry expert with over a decade of experience coaching singles, reviewing dating apps, and analyzing trends within the industry. Matt is a published author with his most recent work “Get More Dates: How to Master Online Dating Apps” that hit shelves in 2023. With a Masters of Science in Finance (MSF) degree from the University of Florida and extensive knowledge of the innerworkings of the online dating industry, Matt frequently serves in an advisory role to some of the largest dating apps on the market. In Matt’s current role with Healthy Framework, he leads the interview team that regularly interviews key dating industry leaders, and leverages his financial knowledge and dating app experience to review and share what singles need to know to get the most out of dating online.