How to Plan a 5 Year Anniversary Celebration

Is it proper etiquette to throw a party for five years of marriage? How can you be creative with a traditional gift theme of wood? Should others give you gifts when you and your spouse reach the five-year mark?

There are quite a few unknowns. But there really shouldn’t be, as who’s to say when and how to celebrate your special occasion. We’re going to do our best to provide answers to all of your questions, though. Whether you need to know how to plan a 5 year anniversary celebration for you and your spouse, or you’re looking for ideas for another couple, you’ve come to the right place.

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The Meaning Behind the 5 Year Anniversary

Just about 100 years ago, a 5 year anniversary would be a big deal. That’s because marriage milestones were celebrated every five years. So a fifth would essentially be a first.

These days, we tend to recognize more events. Are you familiar with the monthiversary?

Anniversary Themes

There’s no right or wrong way of doing things. However, when you’re planning a 5 year anniversary celebration, you can turn to tradition as a jumping-off point. You’ll find some themes and gift ideas attached to every year, starting with the first anniversary and paper.

Some of the themes are challenging on the surface. But when you dig deep and start letting your creative juices flow, you’ll find hidden meaning and unique ways to celebrate based on traditional gift ideas. Wood is the suggested theme for five years. You’ve also got the daisy as the official flower and sapphire or pink tourmaline for the gemstones.

  • Anniversary Stone = Sapphire or Pink Tourmaline
  • Anniversary Flower = Daisy
  • Traditional US or UK Gift = Wood

The 5 Year Anniversary is Wood

Wood is indicative of a solid foundation, which is undoubtedly built after five years of wedded bliss. We’ve got a few ways to creatively incorporate wood into the mix with your 5 year anniversary plans.

But, again, nothing is set in stone. Pick and theme that’s fitting, and go with it!

How to Plan Your Own 5 Year Anniversary Party

When you get to your 25th anniversary, the chances are that your children or other relatives or friends will take on the duty of party planner. Plans for your 5 year anniversary might be in your hands, though.

Now you could always keep it between the two of you and head off to an uber-romantic dinner or a weekend getaway. But if you like parties and want to throw one to share your happiness with others, why should you wait another five, 15, or even 20 more years?

A Getaway for Everyone

Better yet, you could set aside a big formal party for the time being and set up a remote celebration for your closest family and friends. Or maybe just invite your wedding party?

Remember, the theme for the 5 year anniversary is wood. So we recommend a glamping excursion. Stay in log cabins. Sit around a campfire. You can share a toast (or 10!) and not worry about driving.

Benefits of planning a 5 year anniversary celebration in the woods:

  • Cost-effective
  • Everyone can pitch in with food and supplies
  • Can accommodate small or large groups
  • Plenty of glamping locations across the country
  • Adults-only or all ages
  • No need to factor in décor, entertainment, etc. as they’re already part of the experience

Of course, if you and your spouse aren’t outdoorsy, you can always take the more traditional route. We’ve got a few suggestions to help plan a 5 year anniversary party.

Planning a 5 Year Anniversary Celebration for the Couple

There are unlimited possibilities for planning a 5 year anniversary party without going over the top as you would with a silver or gold milestone.

Whether you opt for a formal or informal event, you’ll want to start with a bit of pre-planning. Don’t forget to cover the bases with:

  • Budget
  • Guestlist
  • Venue
  • Theme
  • Décor
  • Entertainment
  • Gifts

We’ve got a go-to page with other anniversary party considerations that’ll help you formulate a plan. But once you’ve got the budget and a general idea of how to proceed, you can let your imagination run wild.

Party Under the Sun or Stars

If you want to go all-in with the wooden theme, we suggest an outdoor party. Whether it’s in someone’s backyard or you rent an outside venue, you’ve got a lot of room to play – literally.

You could have a large bonfire where you toast marshmallows. Play some games with oversized wooden dice. Or maybe a little croquet with those wooden mallets?

Details Matter

It doesn’t matter if it’s a large or small budget affair. All of the little touches will make the difference. Consider a buffet where you identify the dishes with wooden framed chalkboard and wine served from oak barrels? How about wooden toys or brain teasers as party favors?

The best events are the ones that stand out. So, embrace the traditional wood theme when you plan a 5 year anniversary celebration, and it’s sure to be memorable.

Gift-Giving Etiquette for 5 Year Anniversary Celebrations

It’s challenging enough for a couple to decide what to give each other for their anniversary. But if you’re a family member or friend, are you expected to give a gift?

While we’d love to give you a definitive answer, the jury’s out on this. Or, to be more accurate, we should say that it depends on the situation. For the most part, gifts are reserved for parties or significant milestones (like 25 and 50 years). However, if you feel compelled to give something to someone, regardless of the longevity, go right ahead. Generosity is always appreciated.

Address Gifts on the Invitations

We’re not talking about a major milestone at five years. So, if you’re the one planning a 5 year anniversary celebration, we suggest making life easier for the guests. Include information about the gift situation on your invitation – whether they’re expected or it’s a no-gift party.

And, if you’re a guest and you weren’t provided with any gift directive, don’t hesitate to ask. If it’s the couple throwing the party, it’s trickier, though. It’s probably best to get in touch with some of the others attending, so you’re on the same page. When in doubt, though, it’s better to be prepared than come empty-handed. A gift card tucked away in your pocket could do the trick.

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Author: Matt Seymour, MSF

Matthew J. Seymour is a dating industry expert with over a decade of experience coaching singles, reviewing dating apps, and analyzing trends within the industry. Matt is a published author with his most recent work “Get More Dates: How to Master Online Dating Apps” that hit shelves in 2023. With a Masters of Science in Finance (MSF) degree from the University of Florida and extensive knowledge of the innerworkings of the online dating industry, Matt frequently serves in an advisory role to some of the largest dating apps on the market. In Matt’s current role with Healthy Framework, he leads the interview team that regularly interviews key dating industry leaders, and leverages his financial knowledge and dating app experience to review and share what singles need to know to get the most out of dating online.