How to Find a Sugar Daddy: The Complete Guide

Free gifts? Trips? Purses? Shoes? Money? Bills paid?

Where do we sign up?! If you’ve ever wanted to find your very own sugar daddy and get gifts, trips, and cash in exchange for your time, you’ve come to the right place. In this guide we’re going to break down exactly how and where to find a sugar daddy, what is expected of the sugar daddy and the sugar baby, and some tips to make the whole sugar dating experience go that much smoother.

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For those of you that have already been educated in the ways of the sugar baby and are ready to get to dating, we’ve compiled a list of the top online dating sites for sugar daddies and sugar babies. As we’ll outline later in this guide, this is the single best and easiest way to find quality sugar daddies fast.

Any of these sites would be a perfect spot for you to get started on your search. These are the best and most notable sites on the web who have the most affluent (rich), distinguished (important), and sexy (you better know what that one means) boys, pardon us, men, looking for sugar babies like you.

For those of you pretty ladies who aren’t quite ready to jump in head first, we’ve got you covered. In the next sections, we’re going to go over everything you need to know to understand the sugar dating process, find the best and most giving sugar daddies, and have an overall awesome and safe experience. Sugar dating is exploding in popularity and lucky for you, all the good ones haven’t been scooped up yet 😉

How Does a Sugar Relationship Work?

Before we go any further, we need to make sure that you fully understand what is involved in a sugar relationship. There’s a lot of speculation out there about the whole process. What is expected of me? Is this prostitution? Do I have to sleep with the guys? Is this safe? What are my friends and family going to think?

These are all GREAT questions. Let’s start at the beginning. According to the ole’ dictionary, a sugar daddy is a “rich older man who lavishes gifts on a young woman in return for her company.” In other words, you’ll spend time and share experiences with rich older men, and in return, they’ll treat you like a princess.

It’s a simple arrangement that actually mirrors what a lot of dating relationships are like these days. What sugar dating does is remove the ambiguousness. Instead of pretending and dancing around what we want, this type of dating pushes you to be open about exactly what it is you are looking for. The end result is a mutually beneficial relationship. The rich men who want the company of pretty young thangs’ like yourself are happy. And you are happy because you get to enjoy a lavished and upscale lifestyle that you normally would not be able to.

This brings up three important questions:

What Does a Sugar Baby Have to Do?

Here’s the important answer that you need to write down and plaster everywhere. You do not have to do ANYTHING that you don’t want to. No matter what, you never are expected, required, or should be forced to do anything that you aren’t comfortable with and don’t want to do. There is no exception to this. If anyone ever tells you any differently, you send them to us, and we’ll “learn them up real good.” You may also want to send an ambulance in tow.

Now, with that said, you are free to do anything that you want to with your sugar daddy. The idea is this. You’re exchanging your time and companionship with your sugar daddy. This means that you may find an emotional connection (which is ok), you’ll probably have fun (also ok), and you’ll most likely get to experience things you would never have otherwise.

So, let’s talk specifics:

  • You should spend time with your sugar daddy.
  • You should treat your sugar daddy with respect.
  • You should make sure that they’re enjoying their time with you.
  • You should make sure that you are clear with your sugar daddy on expectations, wants, and needs.

These are the only things that are required of you for a successful sugar dating experience. Notice we don’t say that they are required of you no matter what. Remember, nothing is required of you. These are only required if you want the relationship to go well and to continue.

Everything outside of this list will be up for discussion between you and the person you are dating. Our advice (that we will go into more detail about later) is to be as forward as possible with your potential daddies.

What’s great about the online dating sites we recommended is that they make this almost dummy proof for you. It will say very clearly what you are looking for and you’ll be able to see very clearly what they are looking for in return.  Remember, this should be a mutually beneficial arrangement meaning that both of you are benefiting and enjoying your time.

Do I Have to Have Sex with my Sugar Daddy?

Sugar Daddy Sex

The second question and the follow up to the first is whether or not you are required to have sex with your daddy. As we’ve already covered that you are required to do nothing, let’s rephrase so we can have a nice discussion. Should you choose to have sex with your sugar daddy?

The answer is that it all depends on you, what you want, and what your particular sugar daddy is looking for. We aren’t going to “sugar coat this” (get it?). Many of the men you’ll meet in this dating niche will be looking for some degree of intimacy with their babies. A lot of times, though, this is not as much about sex as you might think. A lot of these men are looking for a relationship type experience. They not only want to experience your company, but they want to feel wanted and like you want to be with them. For a lot of men, this is validated through sex.

That’s the long way of saying this. If you feel connected to your sugar daddy and genuinely want to have sex with them, go for it! There is nothing wrong with that. We can probably guess that it’s going to make them want to continue the relationship even though that shouldn’t be your motive. If you don’t feel like having sex with them, that’s ok too. Just make sure that you’re upfront and clear about this from day one. The worst thing you can do in this sort of dating relationship (or any type for that matter) is to be unclear about your intentions and lead someone on.

The bottom line is that you are certainly not required to have sex with anyone, but if you should choose to want to, that’s ok.

How Much Money and Gifts Will I Get From My Sugar Daddy?

Ahhh, the fun question. What kind of things can you expect to get? How much can you expect to get? Again, great questions that were going to dive into. The short answer is that it’s going to vary and all depends on what you negotiate out with your sugar daddy. This is why communication and discussion are so important before you start your relationship AND while it’s going on.

Online sugar daddy website Seeking Arrangement has done a great job of breaking down how much you can expect to receive into different categories. When you date on their site, you’re able to select your desired category, and the daddies are as well. They then match you up with men who are willing to match what it is that you are looking for. Here are the categories they have listed:

They do also have the option for you to leave it as negotiable if you’re not sure what you’re looking for or if it depends on who the guy is you’re chatting with. If we could, we’d give you an idea of how much you can expect to get in money and gifts, but it’s all going to come down to who the guy is you’re dating and what the two of you work out.

Regarding what kinds of things you will get, here’s a list of some of the things we’ve seen sugar daddies do or give to their babies:

Gifts – clothes, shoes, purses, jewelry, cars, houses (we aren’t kidding), pets, wine, makeup

Money – cash, cash, and more cash

Bills Paid – rent, utilities, credit cards, student loans, cell phone bills

Trips – vacations, excursions, getaways

Meals – lavished dining

This is just a sample of some of the things we’ve seen firsthand given. Again, it all comes down to what you negotiate with your potential date. If you make them happy with your company, they’re going to want to make you happy with the lifestyle that you desire and can’t afford. These daddies love to share their successes with people that are willing to take the time to help make them happy.

Tips to Find a Sugar Daddy Faster

By this point, you’re probably beyond excited about getting started and trying to find a sugar daddy to share his successes with you. To help you out, we’ve put together some tips to finding that man faster. While speed should be important, it’s also important that you find the right guy. While getting gifts and free stuff is awesome, it’s only awesome if it doesn’t come at the expense of your happiness. These tips will help ensure that you have an awesome sugar dating experience and find the best sugar daddy in no time!

Use the Internet

Seeking Arrangment Homepage

The internet is a beautiful thing especially if you’re looking to find that special someone. Finding a sugar daddy in the real world without using the web is about the same as trying to find a needle in a monstrous haystack. We sadly don’t live in a world where people are willing to state their true intentions unless it is laid out and dummy proofed like it is with online dating sites.

Know What You Want

You have to know what you want BEFORE you get started. You need to know with what you’re ok with doing, how much time you’re willing to commit, and what sort of lifestyle you would like in return for your commitment. You need to know if you’re willing to travel if you’re interested in possibly being intimate, and what sort of men you are looking for.

Remember, sugar daddies come in all shapes and sizes. Some are older while some are younger. Some are richer, while some are new money. Some are good looking, and some excel in the personality category. Some are more giving, and some will want more in return. Take some time and figure out what it is you’re looking for. It will make the entire process go a lot smoother from day one.

Watch For the Creeps

Online Safety

It’s dating. There are some bad apples out there. You have to use your intuition, intelligence, and street smarts to make sure that you don’t end up in any awkward or compromising situations. Trust your gut and listen to any advice you get from your friends. The bad apples should be pretty easy to spot from a mile away as long as you don’t allow yourself to be blinded by the money or the gifts.

When you do start meeting matches in person, make sure that you take some basic safety precautions. Let friends know where you are going and who you’re going with. Let them know when you should be back. We have an AWESOME online dating safety guide that we highly recommend you read.

Be Clear About Your Intentions

We’ve mentioned this once, but now we want to hammer on it. When you start a new relationship with a new sugar daddy, you have to be clear about your intentions, and you need to communicate. Let them know what you’re looking for and what you’re comfortable with. This is one of the biggest reasons that we’re strong proponents of the online dating sites for sugar dating. They make you answer what you’re looking for and then post it prominently on your profile.

This means there can be no mistakes or misconceptions about what you are looking for. We’ve said it once, and we’ll say it again. The whole point of all of this sugar dating is to create a mutually beneficial relationship for everyone involved.

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Author: Matt Seymour, MSF

Matthew J. Seymour is a dating industry expert with over a decade of experience coaching singles, reviewing dating apps, and analyzing trends within the industry. Matt is a published author with his most recent work “Get More Dates: How to Master Online Dating Apps” that hit shelves in 2023. With a Masters of Science in Finance (MSF) degree from the University of Florida and extensive knowledge of the innerworkings of the online dating industry, Matt frequently serves in an advisory role to some of the largest dating apps on the market. In Matt’s current role with Healthy Framework, he leads the interview team that regularly interviews key dating industry leaders, and leverages his financial knowledge and dating app experience to review and share what singles need to know to get the most out of dating online.