How to Communicate With A Match When Dating Online

Whether you’re new to the online dating scene or you’ve been at it for a while, knowing how to communicate with a potential match effectively will increase your chances of being successful. It takes two people, both being authentic and attentive, to create a communicative environment where chemistry can really spark. If you’re not good at the technical aspects or at conversation in general, then you may be lessening your chances with the singles that do find interest in you.

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The First Couple Interactions

We say the first couple interactions because the initial communication may be a wink, an icebreaker question request, or a chat message. All of these methods are acceptable ways of initiating contact with a potential match, but make sure that you’re being intentional with the attitude and message. Don’t send a whole paragraph or your life story to that person. A simple “hi, how are you?” would be a great first communication.

Read: Sending the Perfect First Message in Online Dating

Keep it classy, keep it flowing

Ok, perhaps you have a different agenda for meeting people, but for most people, you’re going to want to keep the conversation respectful and without too much sexual innuendo. Until you meet that person in real life, you may have just said a bunch of stuff that’s just going to embarrass you if you find out that you don’t like the person. Take it slow and use the online chatting time to establish a good friendly foundation to your relationship.

Requesting a Video Date

So you’ve been chatting with someone you think is kinda special and you’d like to take your conversation up a notch: this is where video dating comes in, especially for busy singles or while we’re all still dealing with COVID virus lockdowns. Some dating apps even have a built in video date feature. Accessing the video chat through these dating apps makes it even more secure for you, since you don’t have to give someone your actual phone number (yet).

Proven Tips

Be polite in your conversation and realize that chatting and flirting in an online dating app replaces the first impression you’d be making in person. It’s super important that you are genuine and take the time to figure out whether you like this person in both personality and looks. A quick video call may be awkward, but it will allow you to verify the other person’s visual identity quickly, as some people are deceptive with their online dating profiles.

Just like if you were getting to know someone in person, an online single will expect regular answers to their responses. Keep the conversation flowing with the icebreakers included on most online dating sites and don’t be afraid to show them who you really are. Someone who likes you for you will be better for you in the long run anyways. There’s tons of singles looking for a true love connection online, so get out there and have fun finding your next special someone too.

Read: How to Avoid Being Too Forward With Online Dating

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Author: Matt Seymour, MSF

Matthew J. Seymour is a dating industry expert with over a decade of experience coaching singles, reviewing dating apps, and analyzing trends within the industry. Matt is a published author with his most recent work “Get More Dates: How to Master Online Dating Apps” that hit shelves in 2023. With a Masters of Science in Finance (MSF) degree from the University of Florida and extensive knowledge of the innerworkings of the online dating industry, Matt frequently serves in an advisory role to some of the largest dating apps on the market. In Matt’s current role with Healthy Framework, he leads the interview team that regularly interviews key dating industry leaders, and leverages his financial knowledge and dating app experience to review and share what singles need to know to get the most out of dating online.