How Do You Determine Your Anniversary Date?

You might think determining your anniversary date is easy, right? Not so fast! There are two of you in this equation, and it’s possible your significant other has a different idea about what event you’re celebrating…or maybe the two of you have so many special moments that you’re trying to figure out which one you’d like to commemorate yearly.

Here are a few options, along with some advice on how to get any anniversary right. Let’s dive in!

Your Wedding Date

While it doesn’t take a legal union to show your love and commitment to one another, a wedding date is what’s most commonly celebrated as an anniversary. You will definitely be in the doghouse if you forget about this one!

Unless you’ve chosen to have a ceremony on one day and take care of the legal logistics (say, at a courthouse) on another, there’s no question which date you’re discussing. But on the off chance you do have a separate celebration, it’s up to you and your significant other to decide if it’s the legal date or the celebration date that means the most to you.

While you may get legally married sooner than you can have a celebration, it may be that you want to commemorate the day you had your family and friends close by your side. Whichever of the two you choose, you’ll likely have a great collection of photos to revisit year after year to help remember the anniversary of your marriage.

The Anniversary of Your First Date

The anniversary of your first date is another sure bet for a celebration. It’s the first night you declared interest in one another, even if you’d met before. It’s a great date to celebrate, because you’ll have built-in memories and activities that day.

You can go back to the same restaurant, or remember a song that was popular and playing that night. Your first date was your first step toward falling in love, and that’s definitely not something to take lightly. Celebrating your first date is a perfect romantic remembrance.

The Anniversary of the Date You First Met

It’s possible you knew each other before you started dating. Maybe you were coworkers, or had mutual friends but were dating other people, or any number of other things that would have kept you from dating. The idea of star-crossed lovers beating the odds is incredibly romantic.

If you choose to celebrate the first moment your eyes locked across the room, go for it! If you want to celebrate your relationship from the very start, the anniversary of the very first time you ran across each other is an excellent choice.

The Anniversary of Your First Kiss

For a lot of people, the anniversary of your first date and the anniversary of when you first kissed may be the same. But if one of you was coy, or you have a faith-based reason for waiting, those dates might be different.

Your first kiss is bound to be an incredibly romantic memory, so if you’re searching the perfect date to choose as your anniversary, this may be the one. Start your anniversary with a kiss to remember it by!

The Anniversary of When You Went Exclusive.

Deciding you and your significant other are going to be exclusive—the adult version of going steady—is another milestone you may want to consider. Whether you’re on the path to marriage or you’re just certain you and your sweetheart are soul mates, the date you first chose to declare it is a solid anniversary date choice.

There are big decisions and strong emotions that go into deciding to date exclusively. Honor them by acknowledging the date the two of you went exclusive. Whatever your future holds, the day you decided you’d walk through that future together is a special day.

The Day You Moved In Together

Moving in together is a big step. Why not choose that as the day you choose to celebrate? It can be a great excuse to have a dinner party with close friends, or even just a romantic dinner at home.

You could even celebrate it by gifting yourselves with something you’d wanted for the house, like a new piece of furniture or a painting for your walls. Or use the day to start a big DIY project together and work side by side on something new for the house you can both enjoy.

Choose Your Own Adventure

Not every relationship has a linear trajectory. You could have been on again and off again for a while, or one of you may have gone off for school or work and your anniversary just isn’t clear-cut. No worries! There’s nothing keeping you and your special someone from choosing your own day to celebrate.

For many people, Valentine’s Day is a natural choice for a day to celebrate being in love. (Plus, it’s also a very easy date to remember!) Share the collective love in the air by choosing February 14th to celebrate.

Another great day to choose as your anniversary is New Year’s Day. What’s more romantic than starting the next year together and seeing in the potential of the next year?

That said, there’s something to be said for avoiding holidays as you work with your partner to choose your annual special day. Big holidays often mean restaurants, hotels, and flowers are more expensive than they’d be on an average day.

Even if money is no object, restaurant and hotel reservations will be harder to get, and if you’re traveling, there’s a higher chance of plane delays and gridlocked traffic. Who wants to spend their special day frustrated waiting in a restaurant lobby or stuck on miles of highway traffic.

The truth is that every day with your sweetheart is special. An anniversary date is just a day to take a step away from your day to day and acknowledge what you mean to each other.

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Author: Matt Seymour, MSF

Matthew J. Seymour is a dating industry expert with over a decade of experience coaching singles, reviewing dating apps, and analyzing trends within the industry. Matt is a published author with his most recent work “Get More Dates: How to Master Online Dating Apps” that hit shelves in 2023. With a Masters of Science in Finance (MSF) degree from the University of Florida and extensive knowledge of the innerworkings of the online dating industry, Matt frequently serves in an advisory role to some of the largest dating apps on the market. In Matt’s current role with Healthy Framework, he leads the interview team that regularly interviews key dating industry leaders, and leverages his financial knowledge and dating app experience to review and share what singles need to know to get the most out of dating online.