We Reviewed HER, the Most Popular Lesbian Dating App

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HER is arguably the most popular lesbian and bi dating app on the market, but we want to know if the app lives up to its popularity. Can LGBTQ female singles on HER actually find matches easier than using mainstream dating apps that are LGBTQ-friendly? We looked at all the facts to figure it out!

Whether you are interested in their cost or just want to know if signing up is worth the trouble, we’ve got the answers to your questions. If you are interested in getting the scoop on HER, read on for our review.

The unparalleled userbase at HER

If you identify as lesbian, bisexual, non-binary, pansexual, or queer, HER is totally worth it for you. Sure, some users who are attracted to cis-men may need to use other apps on occasion, but there is a real disparity between the user base on HER versus other sites. 

For instance, only 0.01% of female users on Tinder identified as part of the LGBTQ community. This is out of only 7.8 million users! HER has 4 million users in 55 countries that all identity as LGBTQ and are actively seeking someone else within that community. 

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You can try the app out for free and only need to upgrade to premium if you find the cap on swipes to be too limiting. Otherwise, premium is meant to provide only bonus features that are nice but not necessary. 

All in all, we say HER is totally worth a try! 

Is HER Right For Me?

Part of finding the perfect partner is using the perfect dating app. But how do you know if the HER dating app is the right fit? Let’s look at some key pros and cons:

HER Pros

  • HER is a niche site for lesbians, bisexuals, and pansexual people which can help ensure a safe and inclusive environment. 
  • Sophisticated app that is beautiful to look at and intuitive to use. 
  • The base version of the app and a general number of features are completely free to use.
  • Utilizes communities to create an atmosphere of unity and social interaction. 
  • Uses strict criteria for signing up to keep a safe space (including photo ID).

HER Cons

  • Swipes are capped unless you purchase a premium membership. 
  • Users who are also attracted to non-females have to use a second app for their dating needs. 
  • Only available as an app, not as a website.
  • Verification can take a few days.

Not sure if you resonate with HER? Here are a couple of quick alternatives to consider:

Lets put a spotlight on our favorite features…

HER has a lot of interesting features that makes the app feel more like a loving social media community than a straight up dating app. Let’s dive into a few of our favorite features and how they can improve your dating experience. 


Head over to communities to see what’s on peoples’ minds, post photos, have discussion, and get a feel for the personalities of the singles in your area. This is the feature that helps take HER from a standard dating app and turn it into a hybrid form of dating app and social media. 

Rewind Profiles

This is a great feature that allows you to take a look back at profiles you didn’t swipe right on the first time. This is great in case you mis-swiped or just overlooked someone by mistake. 

Incognito Mode

Search for singles without letting anyone know you are even looking. It is a great way to overcome any anxiety you may have for online dating, but the feature is only available for premium membership holders. 

Diversity and self-expression on display…

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HER App Screenshot
HER App Screenshot

The singles on HER come in a million varieties. There is so much fantastic self-expression and open-mindedness on the app, which is something we haven’t seen on many other dating sites. It can make it a little tough to find a great match by chance, but there are plenty of search filtering features to help you find the perfect partner for you. Overall, we think you will be really pleased with the singles on HER.

HER signup and verification steps…

Signing up with HER is a bit of a journey. You need to prove to the moderators that you are:

  • 18 or over
  • Female-identified, transgender, non-binary gendered, or queer 
  • Living in one of their available countries

This may be completed through the successful linking of a social media site, but sometimes this isn’t enough to verify your status. Especially if you aren’t out on social media or don’t use your real information. 

In that case, you will need to email the mods with the following information and wait to hear back about the status of your verification:

  • The email address linked to your Facebook account, Instagram username, or Apple Login
  • Phone number with your country code
  • First and last name and your name used in the app
  • Date of Birth
  • Scan or a picture of valid photo ID that matches your information

Monthly cost of HER premium…

Membership TypeMembership LengthMembership Cost
Premium1 month$14.99
Premium6 months$10 monthly
Premium12 months$7.50 monthly
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Author: Matt Seymour, MSF

Matthew J. Seymour is a dating industry expert with over a decade of experience coaching singles, reviewing dating apps, and analyzing trends within the industry. Matt is a published author with his most recent work “Get More Dates: How to Master Online Dating Apps” that hit shelves in 2023. With a Masters of Science in Finance (MSF) degree from the University of Florida and extensive knowledge of the innerworkings of the online dating industry, Matt frequently serves in an advisory role to some of the largest dating apps on the market. In Matt’s current role with Healthy Framework, he leads the interview team that regularly interviews key dating industry leaders, and leverages his financial knowledge and dating app experience to review and share what singles need to know to get the most out of dating online.