What is Dating in Minnesota Really Like?

The “happening Minnesota dating scene” is a phrase you probably don’t hear that often. And while we know a lot of people like to hate on the quality of things here—it’s really not that bad. People are meeting, connecting, and finding love. It just might not be as flashy or prominent of a scene as you might see in other states.

Let’s talk more about everything you need and need to know about dating in Minnesota.

All of this begs the follow up question—what is the dating scene in Minnesota really like? Well, here’s what we’ve seen.

Transplants dating may be slow to integrate.

Minnesota natives tend to be a “keep to ourselves” type of people. That means that people from out of state moving here may have to work a little harder to build friend groups and find romantic connections.

Cuffing season is real here.

If you aren’t familiar with the term, it refers to people wanting to get together throughout winter and the holidays mainly driven by the weather and a fear of holiday loneliness. Guess what? This is huge in Minnesota, as it usually is in states where the winters are quite frigid.

The “winter coating” trend is also a real thing in Minnesota.

Along with cuffing season comes another trend that is one singles need to be on the lookout for—winter coating. This term refers to people reaching out to their exes during cuffing season. Two takeaways from this. One—if you’re getting the urge to reach out to someone you aren’t with anymore and it’s purely for seasonal reasons, resist the urge. Two—be on the lookout for your exes reaching out to you during this time of the year. Chances are they’re not looking for something longer term than winter even if they say so.

The clichés that everyone is too nice affects the dating scene.

I have to agree with the clichés that most people (not everyone) in Minnesota is super nice. Unfortunately, this has a bit of a negative effect on the dating scene. People here tend to be a little more hesitant to speak their mind or share their true feelings. Be on the lookout for sugar coating or people doing things just to avoid conflict.

Politics are in play in the cities and the suburbs.

While Minnesota is known for being a fairly liberal state, that doesn’t ring true for the suburbs and more rural areas. What this has to do with dating is that many people in the state do seem to care more about their stances on issues when it comes to choosing a partner. While we think you can totally date someone from a different political party, not everyone in Minnesota agrees with us.

You’ll meet a lot of single lifers.

“Yea, I’m going to move somewhere without snow or winter.” How many times have you heard this from someone who just never seems to pick up and leave Minnesota? These “lifers” tend to be the majority and not the minority in the state—and that’s okay. We share this in case you’re someone who wants to try living somewhere else so that you’re aware to check if the person you’re interested in is really interested in ever leaving the state.

People’s relationship goals are quite polarized.

We touched on it but just adding here for completeness. Singles in Minnesota seem to be pretty dead set on what they want out of a relationship. It’s either hardcore looking for love or leave me alone casual. We respect anytime someone knows what they want. Just don’t try and start a relationship with someone with a different goal and don’t use a Minnesota dating app that doesn’t match what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for you husband on Tinder or a quick connection on eHarmony, you’re going to have a bad time.

As we hinted in our intro, we think that data holds the key to helping singles better understand the environment they are in which can bring confidence and…well…understanding. With that in mind, let’s dig in a little.

Our team decided to take a look at the data and get to the bottom of which cities in Minnesota are most interested in online dating. What we did was look at the volume of internet searches for online dating over the past 12 months from each city and metropolitan area. Below, you’ll see which two cities came out on top. Oh, and just in case you’re worried because you don’t live in any of these areas—don’t be. There are singles all over the state. These are just the areas with more search traffic over the past year.

Minnesota Google Trends Data for Online Dating
  1. Minneapolis – St. Paul MN (100)
  2. Fargo-Valley City ND (52)

As you probably expected, the primary interest area is in the Minneapolis and St. Paul area. Maybe that’s why both cities were in the top five list of best cities for singles (teaser for the next section)? And the reason you see an area that includes North Dakota on the list is because the study was broken down into major metropolitan areas, which sometimes cross state lines.

Next stop on the Minnesota data express? Well, how about the whole state of Minnesota?

In a recent study on the best cities for singles in the USA, our team of researchers looked at the 100 largest cities in the country and how they ranked in quality for single men and women. Two cities from Minnesota made the list, and they made the list with a big splash. St. Paul came in at 5th place with a very strong showing in all categories. The city did particularly well in the dating amenities category.

But the city that did the best was Minneapolis, which ranked #1 in the entire United States for cities for singles! That’s not #1 in Minnesota, but that’s #1 in the entire U.S. Bravo Minneapolis.

  • 1st – Minneapolis
  • 5th – St. Paul

Want to know a little more about the Minnesota singles population and community before you get started? We don’t blame you! Whether you’re brand new to the state or you’ve been here your whole life, learning about who is out there can really help you get a leg up on the search.

Total Population

  • 5,707,390

Population in Minnesota by Gender

  • It’s just about an even split of men and women in the state
  • 49.9% women in Minnesota
  • 50.1% men in Minnesota

Overall Singles by Gender (Unmarried percentage of the population)

  • 48% of women in Minnesota are single
  • 47% of men in Minnesota are single

Population in Minnesota by Age Group

  • The median age in Minnesota is 38.8 (identical to the National average).
  • 12.6% aged from 20-29 years old
  • 13.6% aged from 30-39 years old
  • 12.2% aged from 40-49 years old
  • 12.5% aged from 50-59 years old
  • 23.7% aged 60+ years old

% Households With Internet in MN

  • 82.9% of households in Minnesota have internet access

Is dating in Minnesota hard?

Honestly, we think dating in Minnesota is actually a lot easier than it is in other states (though, still challenging). Unlike places that are heavy with tourism, there aren’t as many distractions and transient visitors to deal with. Additionally, people tend to be pretty clear with their relationship goals (due to the polarization of the population), which is pretty awesome—as long as they’re being truthful. All in all, dating in Minnesota is not easy but it’s certainly a lot easier than it is in other states. And not to mention, two of the cities in the state scored very high on the list of the best cities for singles.

Is online dating in Minnesota safe?

Online dating is just as safe in Minnesota as it is anywhere else in the country. The key to staying safe online is doing your part with things like vetting your matches, taking things slowly, not sharing too personal of information, and never sending money to anyone.