What is Ghosting? Online Dating Advice

BooOOOoooo! Ok, we’re not talking about that kind of ghost. We’re talking about people who are either too flaky to have a real relationship with someone, or perhaps they’re unable to just say “I’m not interested in you.” What is ghosting in online dating, how does it typically happen, and how can you use it to your advantage yourself? Read on to learn a little more about this modern phenomenon known as ghosting.

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What is Ghosting?

Ghosting is defined as when a person suddenly and unexpectedly cuts off all communication with a person they’ve been seeing. They’ll avoid their messages, flirts, and any other forms of interaction that may have been established, such as on social media accounts. The potential match literally goes silent and becomes unable to be reached by the other party. It’s confusing, frustrating, and a really bad tactic (usually) to use when you’re dating online.

The Truth About Ghosting

There are times while seeing someone that you actually might want to employ ghosting techniques – but be careful because this can not only confuse someone, it can also really hurt someone’s feelings if they genuinely like you. In online dating, there are times when someone comes off as creepy or maybe even abusive. In these going-nowhere-situations is when ghosting is perfectly appropriate to use. Ghost the person in lieu of reporting them to the online matchmaker reporting system, which can always be your next step in removing a total creep from your activity feed.

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Author: Matt Seymour, MSF

Matthew J. Seymour is a dating industry expert with over a decade of experience coaching singles, reviewing dating apps, and analyzing trends within the industry. Matt is a published author with his most recent work “Get More Dates: How to Master Online Dating Apps” that hit shelves in 2023. With a Masters of Science in Finance (MSF) degree from the University of Florida and extensive knowledge of the innerworkings of the online dating industry, Matt frequently serves in an advisory role to some of the largest dating apps on the market. In Matt’s current role with Healthy Framework, he leads the interview team that regularly interviews key dating industry leaders, and leverages his financial knowledge and dating app experience to review and share what singles need to know to get the most out of dating online.