Facebook Dating 101 – Is it any good?

Fact Checked by: Dr. Nicolette Natale

Well, it’s come full circle. The app that used to be forced to link to all the dating sites has decided to stop being the middleman and created its own dating app. That’s right, we are talking about Facebook Dating. 

Now, you might expect us to just start off on a hate train like a lot of other sites do. We get it, Facebook isn’t exactly revered for their privacy and data security. However, we want to be as fair as possible and look at all pros and cons for what they are.

That’s why we’ve gone through literally every aspect of the Facebook Dating App. From the quality of the users to the cost of service, we got the scoop on it all. If you are considering giving Facebook Dating a try, check out our rating and review first.

Should you try Facebook Dating? We say maybe not…

Facebook Dating Homepage Screenshot

Let us be frank: Facebook Dating is not the best or most secure dating app on the market.

And honestly is anyone really surprised by that? I mean how often do you see posts saying things like, “Sorry if anyone got some weird messages from me. I was hacked”. Well, if anyone was wondering, that same group of scammers, catfish, and other weirdos are absolutely looking to take advantage of the singles on Facebook Dating.

But maybe you’re fine with having your online dating life connected to a Facebook account (despite it being well known for privacy issues, data leaks, and selling your info for targeted advertising). Does that mean you should give Facebook dating a try? After all, it is free to use right?

Facebook Dating App Screenshot

Not really… It is true that all existing facebook users need to do is opt in and it’ll never cost you money; but that doesn’t mean it’s free. The reason we say this is that you’re definitely going to spend a lot of your valuable time getting ghosted, dodging catfish, or blocking underaged FB dating users (yep, just like regular Facebook users lie about age).

And despite Facebook’s popularity not many people are using Facebook Dating (especially in the US). And from what we can tell it’s not getting any better. Almost 60% of Facebook users have never even heard of Facebook dating. And we think that says a lot about the product.

Don’t you think that number would be at least a bit higher if Mark Zuckerberg was proud of this one? Like how many ads have you seen for the Meta Quest headsets?

The bottom line is this – you can try Facebook Dating if you want (since it’s free), but it’s really really not designed for anything serious or meaningful. And with as few features as it offers we really can’t expect it to. Unless some serious changes happen, it will sit beside sites like Omegle, helping folks encounter people they’ll wish they hadn’t.

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5.6/10.0

What is the FB Dating App? – History, Concerns, and the Future

Facebook Dating is one of many spin-off projects in Mark Zuckerberg’s ever-expanding digital empire.

The app was first launched in September of 2018 for Colombian users and by the end of that year reached 14 other countries including Thailand, Mexico, and Australia. Nearly a year later Facebook dating would hit the US market and finally in late 2020 Europeans would get access to the Facebook dating app.

But what is FB dating? Honestly, it’s as simple as it seems, the Facebook dating app allows users to find other singles who share their interests using an existing Facebook account.

Users can filter results by location, age, height, religion, and more to refine their search. You can add Instagram posts to your profile or join groups to really show off your personality and increase the chances of finding compatible matches. Best of all it’s completely free!

Sadly you often get what you pay for and that seems to be the case with Facebook Dating. This service is not without its flaws. There have been bugs at various different launch stages that made headlines. The app also seems to have a rather small user base compared to other dating sites. In April of 2021, the Verge Reported, “Not Many People Are Using Facebook Dating” and this seems to be a consistent trend on social media. To make matters worse, there is currently no desktop-friendly version of the Facebook dating app further restricting the potential userbase.

Ultimately, the Facebook Dating app faces 2 major fights if they want to succeed in 2024:

  • It needs to stand out from the HUGE number of other established online dating services and,
  • Facebook desperately needs to gain user trust.

There is so much personal private data that goes into online dating and many users are scared that info will get out should they try FB dating. On top of that, established online dating sites have more users, more success stories, and have been in the game for decades. The FB dating app is alright, but the team really needs to innovate if they want to cut our a peace of this market.

Pros

  • Facebook Dating is completely free to use. 
  • If you already have a Facebook, you don’t need to sign up for a new app. You simply opt in and start searching.
  • Those who are not great at technology but do understand social media find that Facebook Dating is easy enough for them to use.
  • Integration with Facebook, Instagram, and Messenger.
  • You can quickly build a detailed and personal profile.

Cons

  • Scammers, hackers, and underage users are everywhere.
  • You can’t get around linking this one to Facebook and its well known flaws (for obvious reasons).
  • There are many more privacy concerns with using Facebook Dating than with other dating apps.
  • Not many people are using Facebook Dating.
  • FB Dating is currently not desktop compatible.
  • Most users agree Facebook dating is not good.

A short list of basic features (and our thoughts!)

Though Facebook Dating’s list of features is short, it is filled with things we find unique and interesting. Most of the app is run like a traditional, casual dating site, but there are four specific features that really stand out to us:

Block Settings

Facebook has some really interesting settings options, especially when it comes to blocking. Not only can you create a custom list of Facebook users you want to avoid, but you can choose to not let any singles who are friends of your friends see your profile. 

Screenshots of Facebook Dating Block Settings

The point of these settings is to allow users to get a sense of separation from the social media and the dating function. Plus, it allows you to search for singles outside your immediate bubble. Unfortunately, many have found that this feature has created a safe place for unfaithful partners to cheat on their significant others without being caught. 

On Pause

On pause is a setting option that lets you freeze the process of matching on the dating portion of the app. This means that you will no longer be suggested matches nor will you be suggested to others. Instead, you can simply focus on communicating with the matches you already have, which is a nice way to keep from being overwhelmed with choices. 

Second Look

Other dating apps might want to take a look at this option, because Second Look may be a bit of a game changer. While other apps often let you undo a previous skip or swipe, if you passed over a match days ago and then realize you may be interested, you are basically out of luck. 

With Facebook Dating’s second look feature, you can get a list of all the matches you’ve had and see if you accidentally passed on anyone that you might want to give a second chance. 

Secret Crushes

Facebook Dating Secret Crushes Screenshots

This might be one of the only perks of having a dating app linked to your personal social media! This interesting feature allows you to select friends from your Facebook account on whom you have a “secret crush.” If this person then signs up for Facebook Dating, they will be informed that someone has a secret crush on them and they will be prompted to pick secret crushes of their own from their friends list. 

If they pick you as one of their secret crushes, it will be revealed to them that you were the one with the crush. You can even alter your crush list and remove those who have lost your interest. 

Who’s swimming in the Facebook Dating pool?

Facebook Dating App Screenshots

Considering how many people are on Facebook, it seems like the dating pool should be so filled to the brim that finding a great match is a breeze. Unfortunately, the lack of interest from the general Facebook population has led to slim pickings that contain mostly an older audience with the more than occasional scam account. 

We’ve even looked through user reviews only to discover that a chief complaint is a lack of match results in many areas let alone a lack of good match results. So, if you are interested in only dating people you already know, you might have a good time. Otherwise, you are likely to find better results elsewhere.

Facebook Dating for Black Singles

In today’s tumultuous culture, it’s important to see how influential institutions (like dating apps) deal with cultural diversity and protecting groups of people who may not be getting a fair shake. So, is Facebook Dating a good option for Black singles? Does the app do enough to protect, promote, and support the Black community?

Overall, we’d say yes. Here are a few of the reasons why.

First, Facebook has elected to not include an ethnicity filter for your matches on the app. While some people are big fans of this feature, others believe that ethnicity filters create a racial bias and an unequitable experience for Black singles. If you like having this feature, you won’t get it on Facebook Dating. But if you believe that it does create these bias, then that’s a big win for Facebook Dating for supporting the Black Community.

Facebook Dating Review image showing no ethnicity filter

Next, Facebook as a whole company has done quite a bit to stand in solidarity with the Black community. In 2020 shortly after the tragic death of George Floyd, Mark Zuckerberg (the owner of Facebook) posted Black Lives Matter on his profile and pledged to review Facebook’s policies to make it a safe and accepting environment. Additionally, the company said it would donate $10 million to racial justice organizations. These are certainly positive steps of support, but some argued whether their products backed up their statements. In fairness to Facebook and Facebook Dating, attacking them for not following through on a pledge they made just a couple weeks prior does seem a little premature. The day after that article was released, Facebook posted its stance on racial justice.

Again, while Facebook (social media) is technically different from Facebook Dating, it’s all part of the same company, so the efforts on the platform as a whole should count for something.

Overall, we’d say that we saw no major blemishes or systemic problems when it came to racism or equitable injustice on the Facebook Dating platform.

5 steps to start using Facebook Dating

  • Download and sign up for Facebook if you haven’t already
  • Sign into your account.
  • Touch the 3 lines (Navigation) to open the menu.
  • Choose dating ( ).
  • Follow the on screen prompts and answer questions about your dating preferences.

Is FB dating actually free to use? What’s the catch?

For consistency sake we’ve added a table to show the pricing of the FB dating app but the bottom line is it’s completely and totally free! And we’ve seen nothing anywhere online to suggest that they plan on changing this.

If you just want to get your feet wet and see what online dating is like Facebook has made it incredibly easy offering similar features to services like Tinder, Hinge, and Badoo, but with absolutely no premiums or upgrades.

Membership TypeMembership LengthMembership Cost
PremiumUnlimitedFree

Finally, customer support is not great…

If you are looking to be able to call a great customer service rep and get your problems resolved quickly, look elsewhere. Facebook Dating is totally free, which is great, but kind of removes a sense of obligation when it comes to offering customer support. Instead, you are given a set of FAQs to search through and not much else.

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Author: Matt Seymour, MSF

Matthew J. Seymour is a dating industry expert with over a decade of experience coaching singles, reviewing dating apps, and analyzing trends within the industry. Matt is a published author with his most recent work “Get More Dates: How to Master Online Dating Apps” that hit shelves in 2023. With a Masters of Science in Finance (MSF) degree from the University of Florida and extensive knowledge of the innerworkings of the online dating industry, Matt frequently serves in an advisory role to some of the largest dating apps on the market. In Matt’s current role with Healthy Framework, he leads the interview team that regularly interviews key dating industry leaders, and leverages his financial knowledge and dating app experience to review and share what singles need to know to get the most out of dating online.