How You’ll Grow and Change Through Online Dating

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Little did you know that whether you find love or not through online dating, you’re going to get something out of it. We could hit you with a million cliché phrases like “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger,” but we’re going to spare you (minus that one by accident). The point we want to make today is that online dating is going to help you to grow as a person whether you find the right person for you or not.

In this post, we’re going to walk you through some of the ways that you might grow as a person through this process. As you’ll see, all of these are positives and things that will help you in your future dating life, relationships, and life in general.

You’ll Learn About Yourself

Online dating has an interesting way of getting people to get to know the most important person in their life – themselves. Whether it’s through filling out your profile, taking personality tests, or just through your interactions with other people, you’re going to learn things about yourself. You’re going to learn what you like, what you don’t like, and how you react to different situations.

Whatever cheesy phrase maker said that you get stronger through trials and tribulations was right. Every bad date that you go on and every person that it doesn’t work out with will teach you something about yourself. Honestly, we hope you never have to go on any bad dates, but it is just part of the process sometimes. You have to go through some no’s (and sometimes some big no’s) to get to the yes that you are looking for.

You’ll Become a Stronger Person

What doesn’t kill you makes you…sorry, we just can’t help ourselves. You can blame Kelly Clarkson, or you can blame the fact that there is a lot of truth behind that phrase. When you go through the online dating process, you’re going to have a lot of fun. It’s an exciting and adventurous process that you’ll meet a lot of interesting characters along the way.

However, not everything in the process is always going to be rainbows and roses. You’re going to run into some less-desirable people and people that just don’t click with you and what you’re looking for. You can limit this by choosing a quality online dating site, but you can’t fully eradicate it. There will still be some knuckleheads that somehow work their way through the cracks.

The more experience you get dealing with these people effectively, the less they will bother you in the future. This will not only help you with future dating knuckleheads but will also help you with real life knuckleheads.

You’ll Widen Your Horizons

One of the main reasons that a lot of people get into online dating is that their social circles are too small and don’t have the types of people they are looking for when it comes to a mate. When you start to date online, you’re going to be exposed to all different kinds of people from all different walks of life. The exposure to culture and different viewpoints will help to shape who you are a person. Even if you never date any of these people, the exposure itself is going to help you understand more of what the world has to offer and will broaden your horizons.

The Final Word

Ultimately, the goal of online dating is to find that special someone that you’re looking for. But, if you can pick up some valuable life experience and knowledge about yourself along the way, that’s a plus, right? There is nothing wrong with killing two birds with one stone. That way, when you find that special someone, you’re going to be that much stronger and cultured of a person.

Sorry, but we have to close with it. In the words of the great Kelly Clarkson, “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.” Yes, we know she didn’t come up with that phrase 🙂

Written By: Jason Lee

Jason Lee is a data analyst with a passion for studying online dating, relationships, personal growth, healthcare, and finance. In 2008, Jason earned a Bachelors of Science from the University of Florida, where he studied business and finance and taught interpersonal communication.

His work has been featured in the likes of The USA Today, MSN, NBC, FOX, The Motley Fool, Net Health, and The Simple Dollar. As a business owner, relationship strategist, dating coach, and US Army Veteran, Jason enjoys sharing his unique knowledge base with the rest of the world.

Jason has worked in the online dating industry for over 10 years and has personally reviewed over 200 different dating apps and dating websites and continues to be a leading voice in the relationship and dating community, both online and in person.

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Author: Healthy Framework Team

The Healthy Framework team has a combined 50+ years of experience in the online dating industry. Collectively, the team has reviewed over 300 dating apps and is known as one of the leaders in the relationship advice and information space. The team's work has been featured on Zoosk, Tinder, The Economist, People Magazine, Parade, Women's Health, Her Campus, Fox, and more.