How to Communicate With A Match When Dating Online

Whether you’re new to the online dating scene or you’ve been at it for a while, knowing how to communicate with a potential match effectively will increase your chances of being successful. It takes two people, both being authentic and attentive, to create a communicative environment where chemistry can really spark. If you’re not good at the technical aspects or at conversation in general, then you may be lessening your chances with the singles that do find interest in you.

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The First Couple Interactions

We say the first couple interactions because the initial communication may be a wink, an icebreaker question request, or a chat message. All of these methods are acceptable ways of initiating contact with a potential match, but make sure that you’re being intentional with the attitude and message. Don’t send a whole paragraph or your life story to that person. A simple “hi, how are you?” would be a great first communication.

Read: Sending the Perfect First Message in Online Dating

Keep it classy, keep it flowing

Ok, perhaps you have a different agenda for meeting people, but for most people, you’re going to want to keep the conversation respectful and without too much sexual innuendo. Until you meet that person in real life, you may have just said a bunch of stuff that’s just going to embarrass you if you find out that you don’t like the person. Take it slow and use the online chatting time to establish a good friendly foundation to your relationship.

Requesting a Video Date

So you’ve been chatting with someone you think is kinda special and you’d like to take your conversation up a notch: this is where video dating comes in, especially for busy singles or while we’re all still dealing with COVID virus lockdowns. If you’re on a dating site like eHarmony, they even have a built in video date feature that you access through their mobile dating app. Accessing the video chat through the dating app makes it even more secure for you, since you don’t have to give someone your actual phone number (yet).

Read: Getting Started with eHarmony’s Video Date Feature

Proven Tips

Be polite in your conversation and realize that chatting and flirting in an online dating app replaces the first impression you’d be making in person. It’s super important that you are genuine and take the time to figure out whether you like this person in both personality and looks. A quick video call may be awkward, but it will allow you to verify the other person’s visual identity quickly, as some people are deceptive with their online dating profiles.

Just like if you were getting to know someone in person, an online single will expect regular answers to their responses. Keep the conversation flowing with the icebreakers included on most online dating sites and don’t be afraid to show them who you really are. Someone who likes you for you will be better for you in the long run anyways. There’s tons of singles looking for a true love connection online, so get out there and have fun finding your next special someone too.

Read: How to Avoid Being Too Forward With Online Dating

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Author: Healthy Framework Team

The Healthy Framework team has a combined 50+ years of experience in the online dating industry. Collectively, the team has reviewed over 300 dating apps and is known as one of the leaders in the relationship advice and information space. The team's work has been featured on Zoosk, Tinder, The Economist, People Magazine, Parade, Women's Health, Her Campus, Fox, and more.