20 Year Anniversary

Y2K? You undoubtedly remember the Y2K scare as the computers changed from 1999 to 2000 if you’re approaching your 20 year anniversary. After all, your wedding was within a few years of the turn of the century – believe it or not.

Does it seem like a lifetime ago?

Or, did time fly because you were having so much fun?

Either way, after two decades, you and your spouse should pull out all the romantic stops. Whether you focus on a gift, a trip, or both, we’ve got your back with our 20 year anniversary guide.

20 Year Anniversary Facts

  • Anniversary Stone: Emerald, with yellow/golden diamond as the alternative
  • Anniversary Flower: Aster
  • Modern U.S. Gift: Platinum
  • Traditional U.S. Gift: China
  • Traditional U.K. Gift: China

How Many People Reach the 20 Year Anniversary Milestone?

Warren Buffett says, “it takes 20 years to build a reputation, and five minutes to ruin it.” We’d like to think that you’re rock solid if you hit the 20 year anniversary milestone.

Couples that reach their 20th beat the odds in many ways. When you look at divorces worldwide, the average duration until that paperwork is filed comes in under 20.

LocationAverage Marriage Duration (Divorced Couples)
Doka (Qatar)5.5
Cape Town11
London11
Tokyo11
Mexico City12
Sydney12
New York CityJust over 12
Paris13
OttawaJust under 14
Rome18

Better years ahead

But, all scary divorce statistics aside, are you aware that nearly 60% of married couples make it to their 20 year anniversary? There are so many off-hand remarks regarding half of all marriages calling it quits, but 60% is pretty impressive, and it’s getting even better.

The divorce rate has been steadily declining in the U.S. since 2011. Couples are entering into partnerships with their eyes wide open. In fact, partners are so cautious that the marriage rate has also recently dropped. From 2018 to 2019, American weddings decreased by more than 5%.

What does all of this mean for you? Probably nothing if you’re still happily married after 20 years. But the fact that you’ve successfully navigated some of the most challenging years together should give you even more reason to celebrate!

20 Year Anniversary Gifts

Unless you’ve really taken the time to ponder the meaning of traditional anniversary gift themes, some of them are baffling.

Paper? Wool? Tin? Cotton?

They can seem a little off the wall. But every anniversary tradition has a hidden implication behind it. For example, paper commemorates one-year anniversary celebrations. Paper is fragile, and it’s also a blank slate symbolizing the story that’s yet to be written.

The China anniversary

So, let’s talk 20 year anniversary gifts. The traditional theme, whether in the U.S., the U.K., or Russia, is china.

China is beautiful, fragile, and elegant. You typically take your time collecting and adding to your set, which is similar to building upon your relationship. Both require tender loving care so that they last a lifetime.

Porcelain isn’t too far off the mark either. Spain, Germany, and France have adopted porcelain as the 20 year anniversary symbol. Italy stands on its own with crystal, which is standard for 15th anniversaries in the United States.

Platinum preference?

We’ve got some china-based gift ideas in our comprehensive gift guide. But if you’d rather focus on another 20 year symbol, you could go with platinum, which is the modern U.S. 20th anniversary theme.

Whereas china requires tender loving care as it’s fragile, platinum is a symbol of enduring love. It represents strength and perseverance.

Gems and flowers for your 20 year anniversary

But wait, there’s more. You can also consider the 20 year anniversary gemstone, the emerald, or the Aster, the year’s official flower.

  • Emerald – An emerald is a bit like china. It can withstand the test of time but only with proper upkeep. Otherwise, emeralds are prone to cracking on the surface.
  • Aster – Asters are associated with Venus, the goddess of love. They’re meant to epitomize love, purity, and faith.

Some Celebrities That Hit the Big 2-0 Milestone

Just as many people are under the illusion that the divorce rate is so much higher than it actually is, the idea of enduring celebrity marriages has been discounted over the years.

But there are plenty of Hollywood couples that, like you, have made it through the good times and bad, racking up 20 and beyond.

Famous couples who have already celebrated their 20th anniversary:

  • Victoria and David Beckham
  • Faith Hill and Tim McGraw
  • Jerry and Jessica Seinfeld
  • Brooke Shields and Chris Henchy
  • Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick
  • Colin and Livia Firth
  • Cindy Crawford and Randy Gerber
  • Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness
  • Will and Jada Pinkett Smith

Take Your 20th Anniversary on the Road

You’ll probably have a big 25th party in just five years. So why not focus your 20 year anniversary on only the two of you?

One of the best ways to commemorate more than two decades together is to make some memories in a fabulous and romantic getaway destination. The possibilities are practically endless, but we’ve got a few ideas to get the creative juices flowing.

Jade Mountain Resort – St. Lucia

“Expect grand sweeping spaces where bedroom, living area, and an extravagant private infinity pool glide into one another to form extraordinary platforms floating out into nature.” Sunset cocktails, spa treatments, two soft sand beaches, first-rate cuisine. It sounds like paradise, doesn’t it?

Kokomo Private Island – Fiji

The Kokomo Private Island Resort features 21 exclusive villas. If your intent is privacy and romance, it won’t get much better than this Fiji destination. You’ll have an ocean view, private pool, and direct beach access. Use your deep soaking bathtub or take an outdoor shower, as Kokomo offers indoor-outdoor (temporary) living. It’s a spa sanctuary where you can even reserve an oceanside massage.

Triple Creek Ranch – Montana, U.S.

It’s not oceanside. Instead, the Triple Creek Ranch is a Montana hideaway with “ranch resort accommodations.” Villas are replaced by elegant, romantic, and secluded log cabins. Imagine cozying up by the fire and forgetting about the rest of the world for a few days. Perfection!